it's been a week today since my FIL passed away. It is amazing how many details need to be taken care of in a time when rational thought seems impossible.

Tom's brother was in charge of the arrangements but of course did not care to do what we asked so instead of having a closed casket like his mother wanted, Tom wheeled his mother into the room looking right at his dad! Talk about shock. In addition, we had requested that no flowers be sent, that the money be sent to the hospice instead...the funeral director neglected to put that part in the obituary and Tom's brother bought over $200 worth of flowers that we had to split with him! All I could think of was that $200 would have paid for someone who couldn't afford it to have nursing care for a day...or medicines...I guess after looking 4 fammily members in 10 years to cancer, I have a much different perspective on these things. It still would be nice to have our wishes respected though.