Interesting thoughts today  

Posted by: Maria

Several things are going on in my mind today.

First, My SIL who is being treated for rectal cancer is having a really rough time of it right now since she is back on her chemo after the removal of some of her rectum and the resection. This round is "less" chemo than the first but she is so week from the first, plus the two surgeries that all she wants to do is sleep. I know that "this too shall pass" but right now, she and her entire family are having a rough time which brings me to my next set of thoughts.

My niece who has been in foster care since she was 16 graduated HS this year, turned 18 and has now driven cross country with her BF to attend school in PA. She got a bunch of scholarships and had saved some money but has made some decisions that have really altered her projected financial situation. First, my brothers are now involved with getting her a car. Apparently my one brother isn't going to be content with just any car either which is rather annoying since she only has a 4 mile drive to school each day. She has also decided to not live on campus but has found an apartment with the aforementioned BF and so that is even more money. Instead of living with my youngest brother as they had planned on doing this summer, they moved into a rental property that my other brother owns so now they have food and other living expenses this summer they hadn't planned on. In short, my brother (at least one of them) feels that I am not pulling my share of all these extra costs. Funny, when I saw my niece this summer none of this was mentioned and no one has given me any insight on this situation until last night when I was pretty much told I needed to come up with $2000 to help defray those costs. ???? Am I supposed to pull that out of my ear or what? I was out of work for 2 years before I went to work for Sam's and had only been at that for 8 months before my husband got laid off in January. He only went back to work full time a couple of weeks ago. We are living pay check to pay check right now. I don't see why just because she (or someone) decided that this is how she wants to do things that we all need to support her for 4 years while she does them. She is planning on working but has no job right now. I know that we should fill the gap for her parents but I have no clue how I am going to do that when I am fighting to keep our heads above water here. Needless to say, I am living with this huge knot in my stomach right now epsecially since my brother pretty much told me that I should forego my upcoming trip to the family reunion in NY in 2 weeks and use that money to help Liz. I look forward to this trip every year. It si the only time this summer that I will get to see my family. This is my major relaxation for the summer. I am not going to give this up. Tough nuts.

Memory Lane via books  

Posted by: Maria

I was reading a post on a BB about someone re-reading Nancy Drew books she had saved since a kid (since she was out of anything new to read) and she really found them boring. My jaw dropped. I am without a doubt a mega Bibliophile. I read nearly every day and I am not picky about it either although I have to admit that trashy romance novels are not my thing. I loved Nancy Drews as a child and still do. Although I haven't read the more recent ones, I have re-read mine dozens of times. I have some of the original ones too. Anyway, this post got a friend and I talking about books were read and loved as kids so I started looking for some of these on the Internet and boy oh boy there is just a treasure trove out there. It also seemed that when I remembered one, sometimes that lead to another.

I was lucky as a child that I lived within walking distance of a library. At the time, the limit a child to check out was 5. I remember one summer going to the library several times a week to get books and the librarian didn't believe I was reading all of them so she started quizzing me. She ended up raising my limit to 10 books before too long. :-)

Cicero said A room without books is like a body without a soul. I think that the books I have read over my lifetime have shaped me as surely as the ocean shapes a coastline. It is amazing to me the number of books I remember reading as a child so here are a few of them and links to some information about them!

Nancy Drew Mysteries I still want to believe that River Heights is in NJ! It made things so much more real!!
Donna ParkerSummer camp, boy friends and being a bridesmaid!
Misty of Chincoteague DEVOURED these one summer sitting in what passed for a tree house!
All of a Kind Family Who knew I was learning about the Jewish Culture!
No Children, No Pets I got this book from a weekly reader ad!
A Lantern in Her Hand I still remember buying this book with my birthday money from the Scholastic Book Mobile that came to my middle school! :-)I recently found a re-print copy and have re-read it and STILL love it! Maybe one of my hands down all time favorite books!
Little House on the Prairie
Janet Lennon of the Lennon Sisters had a series of books that I loved but I haven't found a good page about them yet!

I know I will think of other books I loved. I will add them to a list. Why don't you add yours as well?

I would be the most content if my children grew up to be the kind of people who think decorating consists mostly of building enough bookshelves.

Anna Quindlen

Well look who today's quote is from  

Posted by: Maria

Ben Franklin... Honesty is the best policy. Boy oh boy, it would be good if some of our public servants remembered that one wouldn't it? And not just public servants either!

Other favorites from Ben:

A learned blockhead is a greater blockhead than an ignorant one.

An investment in knowledge pays the best interest.

Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain and most fools do.

Beer is living proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy.

Red, White and Blue  

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This came from a friend and I just love it!! July the 4th is my FAVORITE holiday. God Bless the U.S.A!

NO REFUGE COULD SAVE : BY DR. ISAAC ASIMOV


I was once asked to speak at a luncheon. Taking my life in my hands, I announced I was going to sing our national anthem -- all four stanzas. This was greeted with loud groans. One man closed the door to the kitchen, where the noise of dishes and cutlery was loud and distracting. "Thanks, Herb," I said.

"That's all right," he said. "It was at the request of the kitchen staff"

I explained the background of the anthem and then sang all four stanzas. Let me tell you, those people had never heard it before -- or had never really listened. I got a standing ovation. But it was not me; it was the anthem.

More recently, while conducting a seminar, I told my students the story of the anthem and sang all four stanzas. Again there was a wild ovation and prolonged applause. And again, it was the anthem and not me.

So now let me tell you how it came to be written.

In 1812, the United States went to war with Great Britain, primarily over freedom of the seas. We were in the right. For two years, we held off the British, even though we were still a rather weak country. Great Britain was in a life and death struggle with Napoleon. In fact, just as the United States declared war, Napoleon marched off to invade Russia. If he won, as everyone expected, he would control Europe, and Great Britain would be isolated. It was no time for her to be involved in an American war.

At first, our seamen proved better than the British. After we won a battle on Lake Erie in 1813, the American commander, Oliver Hazard Perry, sent the message, "We have met the enemy and they are ours." However, the weight of the British navy beat down our ships eventually. New England, hard-hit by a tightening blockade, threatened secession.

Meanwhile, Napoleon was beaten in Russia and in 1814 was forced to abdicate. Great Britain now turned its attention to the United States, launching a three-pronged attack.

The northern prong was to come down Lake Champlain toward New York and seize parts of New England.

The southern prong was to go up the Mississippi, take New Orleans and paralyze the west.

The central prong was to head for the mid-Atlantic states and then attack Baltimore, the greatest port south of New York. If Baltimore was taken, the nation, which still hugged the Atlantic coast, could be split in two. The fate of the United States, then, rested to a large extent on the success or failure of the central prong.

The British reached the American coast, and on August 24, 1814, took Washington, D.C. Then they moved up the Chesapeake Bay toward Baltimore. On September 12, they arrived and found 1,000 men in Fort McHenry, whose guns controlled the harbor. If the British wished to take Baltimore, they would have to take the fort.

On one of the British ships was an aged physician, William Beanes, who had been arrested in Maryland and brought along as a prisoner. Francis Scott Key, a lawyer and friend of the physician, had come to the ship to negotiate his release.

The British captain was willing, but the two Americans would have to wait. It was now the night of September 13, and the bombardment of Fort McHenry was about to start.

As twilight deepened, Key and Beanes saw the American flag flying over Fort McHenry. Through the night, they heard bombs bursting and saw the red glare of rockets. They knew the fort was resisting and the American flag was still flying. But toward morning the bombardment ceased, and a dread silence fell. Either Fort McHenry had surrendered and the British flag flew above it, or the bombardment had failed and the American flag still flew.

As dawn began to brighten the eastern sky, Key and Beanes stared out at the fort, trying to see which flag flew over it. He and the physician must have asked each other over and over, "Can you see the flag?"

After it was all finished, Key wrote a four stanza poem telling the events of the night. Called "The Defense of Fort McHenry," it was published in newspapers and swept the nation. Someone noted that the words fit an old English tune called, "To Anacreon in Heaven" -- a difficult melody with an uncomfortably large vocal range. For obvious reasons, Key's work became known as "The Star Spangled Banner," and in 1931 Congress declared it the official anthem of the United States.

Now that you know the story, here are the words. Presumably, the old doctor is speaking. This is what he asks Key:

Oh! say, can you see, by the dawn's early light, What so proudly we hailed at the twilight's last gleaming? Whose broad stripes and bright stars, through the perilous fight, O'er the ramparts we watched were so gallantly streaming? And the rocket's red glare, the bombs bursting in air, Gave proof thru' the night that our flag was still there. Oh! say, does that star-spangled banner yet wave, O'er the land of the free and the home of the brave?

("Ramparts," in case you don't know, are the protective walls or other elevations that surround a fort.) The first stanza asks a question. The second gives an answer:

On the shore, dimly seen thru' the mist of the deep Where the foe's haughty host in dread silence reposes, What is that which the breeze, o'er the towering steep. As it fitfully blows, half conceals, half discloses? Now it catches the gleam of the morning's first beam, In full glory reflected, now shines on the stream 'Tis the star-spangled banner. Oh! long may it wave O'er the land of the free and the home of the brave!

"The towering steep" is again, the ramparts. The bombardment has failed, and the British can do nothing more but sail away, their mission a failure. In the third stanza I feel Key allows himself to gloat over the American triumph. In the aftermath of the bombardment, Key probably was in no mood to act otherwise? During World War I when the British were our Staunchest allies, this third stanza was not sung. However, I know it, so here it is:

And where is that band who so vauntingly swore

That the havoc of war and the battle's confusion A home and a country should leave us no more? Their blood has washed out their foul footstep's pollution. No refuge could save the hireling and slave From the terror of flight, or the gloom of the grave, And the star-spangled banner in triumph doth wave O'er the land of the free and the home of the brave.

(The fourth stanza, a pious hope for the future, should be sung more slowly than the other three and with even deeper feeling):

Oh! thus be it ever, when freemen shall stand Between their loved homes and the war's desolation, Blest with victory and peace, may the Heaven - rescued land Praise the Power that hath made and preserved us a nation. Then conquer we must, for our cause is just, And this be our motto --"In God is our trust." And the star-spangled banner in triumph doth wave O'er the land of the free and the home of the brave.

I hope you will look at the national anthem with new eyes. Listen to it, the next time you have a chance, with new ears. Pay attention to the words. And don't let them ever take it away ... not even one word of it.

Mark Twain...  

Posted by: Maria


I was glad to see that today's quote came from Mark Twain. I love his stories and his wit.

Do the right thing. It will gratify some people and astonish the rest.


That is one of my favorites. Here are some others.

A person who won't read has no advantage over one who can't read.

Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.

Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.

Clothes make the man. Naked people have little or no influence on society.

It is better to deserve honors and not have them than to have them and not deserve them.

It's not the size of the dog in the fight, it's the size of the fight in the dog.


I guess that's it for now. Just something to think about! :-)

When all is said and done,  

Posted by: Maria


more is said than done.
Lou Holtz


Isn't that generally the case? Lou Holtz had lots of good quotes here are some of my favorites...

"A bird doesn't sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has a song."

"I never learn anything talking. I only learn things when I ask questions."

"It is a fine thing to have ability, but the ability to discover ability in others is the true test."

"Life is ten percent what happens to you and ninety percent how you respond to it."


I like these because they all deal with everyday life. In case you may have missed it, I am in a job I absolutely abhor 99% of the time. Yesterday however was one of those days where I actually enjoyed myself. I got to open so I had to be at work at 6 am... and pretty much had everything to myself for the first hour before the store opened. I had great opening cashiers and plenty of them since I had trainees in addition to my regular staff so we got a LOT done. We were slow enough that we were actually able to really spend some time with our members and help them get just what they needed. I got to see my regular business folks that I have been missing since I became a COS and no longer get to work the business hours. I also got to leave at 1 PM so I still had a good amount of the day left too. It is a day like that which allows you to get through the next one.

The other night I got to watch a part of the American Film Institutes' 100 Greatest Movies. I was surprised at how many I have seen but also how many I have not. I went and printed off the list AFI and I want to see how many of them I can find to watch. There are a lot I haven't seen since I was a kid (like the Alfred Hitchcock stuff) and some I saw but either don't remember or maybe didn't see all of. It will be an interesting adventure for sure since I just love movies.

On Monday I got to go see my niece Liz. She and her BF Kevin are traveling to Pa from Montana. If you will go back in my blogs a couple of years you will see that she is the niece that was in foster care. Well she turned 18 in April and graduated in May so she is now officially on her own. I am so very proud of here. She is a wonderful, determined young woman. She is going to attend Kutztown State this fall and received TONS of scholarship money through her hard work. I cannot wait to see what she becomes.

I guess that's it for now. I have to go sew patches on my son's Civil Air Patrol BDU's as he is leaving for CAP encampment in the morning. If I am lucky I can get in some of my own sewing too before I have to go to work. It looks like we are going to get some rain today which is good news because we are so far into this drought!

Oh! The picture I am posting is of a quilt my mother made for my brother and his wife. It took 9 months and has more than 200 hours of hand quilting in it. The picture does not do the colors justice at all! It really just glows.

Salute  

Posted by: Maria

The following is a blog post by a Chaplin who is serving in Iraq.

"I recently attended a showing of "Superman 3" here at LSA Anaconda.

We have a large auditorium we use for movies as well as memorial services and other large gatherings.

As is the custom back in the States, we stood and snapped to attention when the National Anthem began before the main feature. All was going as planned until about three-quarters of the way through the National Anthem the music stopped.

Now, what would happen if this occurred with 1,000 18-22 year-olds back in the States?

I imagine there would be hoots, catcalls, laughter, a few rude comments, and everyone would sit down and call for a movie. Of course, that is, if they had stood for the National Anthem in the first place.

Here, the 1,000 soldiers continued to stand at attention, eyes fixed forward. The music started again. The soldiers continued to quietly stand at attention. And again, at the same point, the music stopped [mid-anthem].

What would you expect to happen?

Even here I would imagine laughter as everyone sat down and expected the movie to start.

Here, you could have heard a pin drop. Every soldier stood at attention. Suddenly there was a lone voice, then a dozen, and quickly the room was filled with the voices of a thousand soldiers:

'And the rockets red glare, the bombs bursting in air, gave proof through the night that our flag was still there. O say does that star-spangled banner yet wave, o'er the land of the free and the home of the brave?'

It was the most inspiring moment I have had here in Iraq.

I wanted you to know what kind of Soldiers are serving you here."


It has always disturbed me that so many people are disrespectful during the playing of our national anthem. I was at a PTA conference where people didn't even rise for the color guard. I just loved this story and I know my son knew better before he ever enlisted. I wish everyone would raise thier children with this kind of respect. These are our future leaders...

Some things to think about!  

Posted by: Maria

Remember Me

This is a great video I ran across. I hope you enjoy it. It really sums up my feelings. It was made by at 15 year old girl! Nicely done Lizzie!!

I had thought I could just embed the video but I can't seem to make it work!

Oh what a night...:-(  

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I got an unexpected email from a friend that her brother in law's son (the BIL was the first person I knew in this family) was KIA in Iraq on June 1. Bruce was just about my age and a career soldier. This poor family has had it's share of heart ache since another son died almost exactly a year ago. My heart just aches for them.

I went to work just after that and not 2 hours later, got a phone call from one of our cashiers who had just gone home at 3 PM that her husband had a heart attack right after she got home and died. It was a day for heavy hearts.

Today I am off and am planning on doing a bunch of little things around here. I already made a big pitcher of brewed ice tea and a bowl of pasta salad and finished up a load of laundry. Now I have a phone line to trouble shoot and a dog to wash among other things. at some point, I suppose I should pay some bills. Thank goodness it is a pay week.

Honor the Fallen God Bless our troops.

Catching up  

Posted by: Maria

Denny and Melissa's wedding on Friday was beautiful. We all had a great time. Denny and Mel have been together for 11 years and have 2 kids so this was just a formality in some respects but they are glad they have finally made it official!

Tommy is having a bit of trouble adjusting to home life with no structure. We are working on that one! Last night after work Jake brought Tommy and Mark up to Florence and we were all supposed to go to the Italian Festival in Newport but I talked with a friend at work who said it was terribly overpriced and the food was lousy so plan B was to go to the movies which didn't work since we couldn't agree on a movie or a time and ended up with Plan C which was miniature golf, Chipotle and Brewster's ice cream. Then Tommy and Jake went to look for the girl Jake is crazy about but she won't give him the time of day and Mark and I came home.

Yesterday was another crazy busy day at good old Sam's club so by 9:30 I was out. I switched hours with someone today so I am working in the liquor room tonight rather than on the floor tomorrow night. Good trade for me since then I am not on my feet all night and since tomorrow is TKD, the guys can just have the car and come home rather than waiting for me until 9:30 AND I get the house to myself for a while!!

OK, I am heading back out to watch my hummingbird feeder. I put one on the corner of the patio and I am having a ball watching the little buggers! They aren't afraid of me at all!

Well surprise, surprise, surprise!!  

Posted by: Maria

Woo Hoo! I was at work Tuesday night (and not enjoying it at all) line rushing like crazy because we were so short handed and packed when I looked up and here is my son! His unit had been fast tracked and he got to come home almost 3 weeks early!! I had no idea he was coming and was totally floored! He looked so handsome in his Class A's. Needless to say I could not wait to get out of work that night!

Unfortunately, since I didn't know he was coming, I didn't have the kitchen stocked and didn't have any time off planned so I am doing the "mom" fretting about things I can't change! ROF. Oh well, he is old enough to go buy food if he is hungry and I only work 3 hours today since we have Denny and Mel's wedding tonight and I am off tomorrow and Monday so I guess we will have catching up time at some point!

He's HOME!! *big grin*

I am the  

Posted by: Maria


daughter, g-granddaughter, niece, cousin, sister and mother of the United States military. My family and ancestors have served this country in military engagements since King Phillip's War in the late 1600's. I am a daughter of the American Revolution (more than once), Daughter of the Union Veterans (3X over) and a dyed in the wool, red blooded American from the day of my birth. I bring this up because last night I had a member make a comment about the T-shirt I wore to work last night.

When I was in Ft. Jackson, SC for my son's graduation from boot camp, there was a display in the PX of red shirts. There was a message there that they were asking all Americans who supported our troops to wear red on Fridays. It is believed that this group of people is a minority...wearing red is a way of showing your support. I purchased a red T there that has a picture of the flag on it and says "Real Americans Support Our Troops". This is what I was wearing last night, along with my "Army Mom" pin that is always on my work vest and the 2 dog tag "Shields of Strength" that I wear for my son and his friend.

Well I was standing at one of the registers helping one of my cashiers with an issue when I heard someone say "only an idiot would wear a shirt like that in public". I looked up to see who/what the person was talking about and realized it was me. I said "excuse me?" and she proceeded to give me a lecture on America's foreign policy, our "terroristic" troops (yes, she did have the brass to actually say that) and that I should be ashamed of supporting such an endeavor. There were at the time lines of people waiting to check out listening to all this. I was absolutely FLOORED and utterly speechless...(I know no one is going to believe that). My cashier bless his heart said to the woman "Is that your son with you?" She had a young boy maybe 12-13 with her and she said it was. He said "Well this woman that you just berated has a 2 sons who are active military, who joined voluntarily in a time of national engagement. They are serving our country so someday with God's grace, your son will not have to." By this time I am in tears and struggling to maintain my composure. People started to clap. I put my hand on the cashiers back and thanked him and turned to walk away. Then I heard people starting to make comments to the woman and I turned around and asked them not to do that because she is entitled to her opinion just as I am entitled to not agree with it. Then I walked away. I was at our podium still trying to pull myself together as people who had witnessed this started walking out thanking me for my sacrifice and telling my to thank my sons' for theirs. Needless to say, I had to leave the floor for a few minutes. :-)

This morning I am still trying to make sense of that woman and I have come to the conclusion that there is no way to make sense of her or her reaction to my shirt. I am NOT going to stop wearing my patriotic clothing or jewelery. If someone doesn't like it, I am sorry but...well tough. The verses that are on my shields are
Joshua 1:9
I will be strong and courageous. I will not be terrified or discouraged; for the Lord my God is with me wherever I go.

and my favorite, Isaiah 40:31
But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on the wings of eagles; they will run and not grow weary; they will walk and not be faint.

I bought these for my soldiers but I can now see that they apply to their families as well. We are the pillars in a society that is fed by the media, where the good that is being done is not shown and our military and our President are portrayed as liars and opportunistic terrorists. My opinions of our President and our national position on this war are irrelevant. It really does not matter. What does matter is that everyday our sons and daughters, husbands, wives, sisters, and brothers are standing together to support and defend our rights to whatever opinions we want to hold. So you are damn right, I support our troops. I will do so every day that I draw breath and I just pray that the woman starts to think about who gives her the right to open her mouth and spout whatever she feels like. It is the blood of soldiers from families just like my own. God Bless them.

For more about:
Red Shirt Fridays
Military Moms
A Million Thanks
Proud Army Moms...Military moms rocked the cradle, now we rock the world.

Well who would have guessed!  

Posted by: Maria



This is my Army son at my brother's this past weekend with my nephew. It seems as if they really hit it off. Tommy got up at 5 with the baby and changed and fed him. Surprised my brother alright! It seems like Tommy spent a good portion of his leave helping everyone get stuff done. He helped my brother trim his trees and haul stuff to the curb,then he trimmed around all their flower beds after that, he painted my mother's kitchen ceiling and put in her air conditioners then he went to see my other brother and his wife for a bit. His reward was a trip to Joe's Crab Shack (that was second choice first was Candella's but they were closed on Memorial Day).

My SIL has just gotten home from the hospital from her second (and hopefully last)round of surgery for rectal cancer. She seems to be doing well. She still has some chemo to do but they are feeling very good about the whole thing and she is keeping a positive outlook and looking forward to getting her life back!

Long, long work weekend so I will skip over that. I got home late on Saturday night to find my younger son in the yard with this new kid who had moved in down the street. They asked if they could camp out in the woods and I couldn't think of any reason why not so I agreed. Well at about midnight, the dog starts going ballistic and I figure they guys are wanting to come in so I go downstairs to see what was going on and here is my neighbor who just happens to be a county cop. He wants to know if Mark has a friend staying over. Apparently they were coming home and 2 boys hurled a chunk of wood at their car and took off running. Not much actual damage had been done but obviously it couldn't be ignored because there could have been a LOT of damage done. Well, I come in and get dressed and take off after the boys. They aren't coming when I call and I don't even have flash light! I pulled my car down the hill and put my high beams on...still can't see them and they aren't coming. I start calling Mark's cell phone thinking I could hear it ring but about this time, the neighbor comes back with his big flashlight and we head down into the woods. We get down there and here are 2 boys with Mark (I didn't know about the other one), they have a fire going in our drought stricken woods...and everyone is acting innocent. Mark claims he knows nothing, he was asleep...this I doubt but I am sure he wouldn't be a part of anything that stupid. Finally the other 2 confess. Well we made them call their mom and made their mom come get them and the neighbor took down all the information about how to contact them etc. I made Mark carry water down the hill and put the fire out and everyone was gone a little after 1. Mark has been forbidden to see or talk to these kids at all. A little hard to do since they ride the bus together but I am keeping an eye out. For the life of me I cannot figure out what they thought they were doing or why they did it. Mark isn't talking either. What a mess! The end result for me was no sleep that night and then a full shift at work. *groan*

I am looking forward to Wednesday and Thursday off. School is finished so I don't even have to go and do that. As soon as I finish here, I am heading downstairs to see if I can get some stitching done before I have to go to work today. It is hot and steamy here so I suspect I will stay inside to do it though!

It is not how old you are, but how you are old.  

Posted by: Maria

That's today's quote from Jules Renard. Sometimes I feel like I can move mountains and sometimes I just feel like I have already moved mountains.

I got Chris safely sent off to his drill weekend with instructions to get a letter from his CO about when he leaves for camp so we can take that to the court and get things straightened out with them. He won't be able to get into the classes until July so we have to see what we need to do now.

I am working all through this weekend but at least today I only have to go in from 1-6. I was planning on going to Movie Gallery this morning to pick up some of the DVD's they have on sale but I realized it is just limited titles so I figure it probably isn't worth making the drive in. Especially with gas at about $3.40 a gallon.

I put some chicken breasts in the crock pot this morning with taco seasoning so I will have some great shredded chicken when I get home. Tacos tonight If I remember to pick up the salsa and cheese before I leave work. I imagine that my 5 hours today will feel like 10. I went to get groceries yesterday and stood in line forever and it was only about 11 am!

Tommy should be at my brother's by now. I hope he enjoyed his trip and didn't have any problems. I know he was excited about going and I am sure my family will be glad to have him there. I wish I was there! I miss my boy.

Some more quotes from Jules Renard:

Everything you want is out there waiting for you to ask. Everything you want also wants you. But you have to take action to get it.

Failure is not our only punishment for laziness; there is also the success of others.

It doesn't pay to say too much when you are mad enough to choke. For the word that stings the deepest is the word that is never spoke, Let the other fellow wrangle till the storm has blown away, then he'll do a heap of thinking about the things you didn't say.

On earth there is no heaven, but there are pieces of it.

Today's quote  

Posted by: Maria

I need to save this one.

If everyone is thinking alike, then somebody isn't thinking.
George S. Patton

I love it. We all need to think out of the box every now and then.

Other great Patton quotes...

Always do everything you ask of those you command.

Better to fight for something than live for nothing.

Don't tell people how to do things, tell them what to do and let them surprise you with their results.

I don't measure a man's success by how high he climbs but how high he bounces when he hits bottom.

We herd sheep, we drive cattle, we lead people. Lead me, follow me, or get out of my way.

If it isn't one thing...  

Posted by: Maria

Yesterday was my last day of exams at National and I was looking forward to being off early and running some long neglected errands before I had to go to Sam's for the evening. Well you know what they say about plans. I was on my way to school when I got a call from My son's friend Chris' roommate (see the May 15 blog) that Chris had been arrested again the night before. Apparently they had a bench warrant out for him for failure to appear since he had missed his followup court date from when his ^&(*&%^ mother had him arrested back in early April. He had been out riding around with the aforementioned roommate in the idiot roommate's unregistered, uninsured car. Not for nothing but I had seen them out around 9:30 and warned them to get back and get the car off the road. They however don't need a "mother" since they are grown men and therefore it was totally unexpected that they were stopped at 2 AM, James ticketed, the car impounded and Chris sent to jail.

SO, I set off on what I am now calling Chris and Maria's Great Adventure. Somehow, in spite of having 2 younger brothers, numerous friends (several who are or aspire to race car drivers and tons who are musicians), and having obtained my college degree ending with considerably less naivete' than I started with; I never have been in jail nor have I had to bail anyone OUT of jail. Heck, I have never even had a parking ticket! (Although I have "talked" my way out of a couple of speeding tickets, those racers are a bad influence LOL) In any case, my adventure through the legal system yesterday left me with a lot of doubt about the effectiveness of the system, not to mention where the HECK do they find these people who are supposed to be doing this work... and notice I said supposed to be doing the work.

First, as any good law abiding citizen would do, I hit the Internet as soon as my class was over to find out what I needed to do and where I needed to go. Then I called my friend Becky who has 2 of the dumbest daughters I have ever met and have repeatedly been through the system. After that, I called to find out that he either had to pay a fine, not bail! ($126.50) or spend 5 days in jail. OK, I thought, not bad, I had $145.00 in cash on me (unusual but I did have errands to run...)so off I went. First I had to find the circuit court clerks office...oops, after I get there they told me I was in the wrong place, I needed pretrial services. OK, back down a floor to pretrial...surprise, they have no record of him or his arrest. *sigh* supervisor please! Amazingly enough the supervisor found the paperwork (on the desk of the man who couldn't find it even though he was the one I had talked to 30 minutes earlier. But...The fine isn't $126.50 it is $156.50 because when they arrested him, they served the warrant. *sigh* $145.00 and change in the wallet, sorry no credit/debit cards or checks. *sigh again* back downstairs, without the paperwork, to find a bank to cash a check. Cash in hand, I go back to pretrial and get the paperwork and discover that I can't pay there I have to go back to the Circuit Court Clerks office. (they couldn't have told me that?) Up another floor to the C3's office and surprise, they take ATM cards, credit cards AND checks! Clerk treats me like I am an idiot and like I am scum of the earth in spite of the fact that I am well dressed, articulate and polite to the nth degree because I just want this over and don't want to piss anyone off. OK, Pay the fine, get the release form and receipt. Jail is 2 blocks over, go to the 8th floor.

Now is when the real fun starts, First I have to find an open parking meter and now it is lunch time in beautiful downtown Covington. Couple of times around the block and I finally find one that my car will fit into. I don't have a large car but people feel they can take up their space and maybe part of another one since they are paying for it...*sigh* I get out, walk the block and go to the 8th floor. Lucky, lucky me it is visiting day at the zoo and the doors just opened. I rode up in a tightly packed elevator...tightly packed with people who on a normal day I would cross the street to avoid. I stand in line for a while before I realize that this is NOT where I need to be so I leave the line and go to the window where you can leave money for your incarcerated loved one and she laughs at me and tells me I am in the wrong spot. Imagine that! So I am now going back down to the ground floor, (thankfully in an empty elevator since no one was leaving yet) back outside, around the building and down another block to ring the bell on the door to what passes for the "reception" area. I am surprised yet again when I am told that I am in the wrong place, I am to take 4 steps to my right and ring the other buzzer. While I am taking the 4 steps to my right, the lady who wouldn't talk to me at the door was taking 4 steps to her left. Amazingly enough, there she was at the window (after I had followed the proper buzzing procedure). I passed her the release form and now she wants the receipt that I actually paid cash for the fine (how did she think I got the release form, mug the circuit court clerk??????????) and another $5 for the jail fee. LONG *sigh* Back to my car a block over, get the receipt and the $5 and BACK to the window directly this time (see, I can learn!) She takes everything, passes back my receipt and informs me it will take 1- 1 1/2 hours to get him released! What the heck, where are they holding him?? SO, in my innocence, I ask her where I should wait, is there a waiting room where when he comes out he will see me and I can find him? (oh man, the visions I had of that place) No, I am to wait either at the top of the driveway or I can wait in my car. Hey! Somewhere along the line I have failed to mention that it is 90+ degrees and we are under a smog alert... by now, with all my back and forth running, I am totally soaked in my good "school clothes", thirsty and yes, I know it is hard to imagine but I am pissed. Just to add to the mix, the jailhouse dumpsters are there at the bottom of the driveway and they were shall we say "ripe"? My car is a block away so if I am there, I know he will never find me. I can go back up to the jail, try to get a visitor pass and see him and tell him where I am (oh please not a chance of me going back there!) or I can wait. So, I head down the block to have lunch (excellent homemade Mexican food at Fontova), drink one bottle of water while I am there and grab another to go and back I go to wait Chris. It's another 1/2 hour before he appears. When he comes out he informs me that they took his class ring and dog tags and he has to go get them...on the 8th floor with the dregs of society. *sigh again* Back I go. Fortunately by now, visiting hours are about over so the waiting room is empty but it still takes them, even with no one else there nearly half an hour to return his possessions. Free at last!!

Now I had already called Chris in to work at 8:30 and told our manager what was going on. Once I picked Chris up, after the obilgatory "mothering" (and don't mistake that with comforting right away), I made him call work and talk to our manager and then I made him go to work for the rest of the night with me. After our Great Adventure. the rest of the day was pretty mundane. Jake brought Chris and I home after a pit stop at Wendy's so they could refuel and I could have a rootbeer float. By the time I got home, it was nearly 11 and I was so keyed up I couldn't get to sleep. Then I was up at 4, because I drank a rootbeer float at 10 at night! Geez, when did I get this old? I finally get back to sleep at 5 and at 6 I wake up with a huge charley horse in my right leg. Needless to say, this is going to be a long day.

I think I am taking my sewing out to the patio for a while this morning before it gets too hot. I may however just find a pillow for the lounge chair and see how quiet I can be! :-) zzzzzzzzzzzz I just may be too old for all this fun!

MY Time!  

Posted by: Maria


Off for the entire day again today, no Sam's, no national. My final exam is ready to be copied for next week so my time at National is rapidly winding down. After my class yesterday I went food shopping and treated myself to some snow crab legs (which I cooked in tomato sauce and served with linguine last night as a late birthday dinner) and a beautiful strawberry cheese cake from the bakery at Sam's. Today will be left overs. With Tommy gone, that cake will last a week or better if I can keep Mark from cutting his own size pieces.

Tom leaves tomorrow afternoon for his Taekwondo instructors camp in Evansville, IN. He will be gone until some time on Sunday. I am seriously thinking about going to an auction on Saturday with Mark since I don't have to be at work until 3.

Today I am doing laundry and working in Sweetheart Tree's Irish Blessing sampler that I am making as a wedding gift for friends of ours who are getting married in a couple of weeks. It won't be done by then but I don't think they will mind. It will work off quickly but I won't be able to have the mats cut and the framing done in time.

OK, back to my stitching and enjoying our somewhat gloomy day. It looks like the sun may come out but it is still very cool! Later folks!

Pay back  

Posted by: Maria

Well I paid for not doing anything last Friday with a grueling weekend at work and then working at Sam's yesterday morning and having to teach last night. In between (including lunch yesterday) I had to get things ready for this week's classes! The day at work was emotionally over the edge for me. One of my managers came in and brought her son with her. He is as young as mine, serving in the army in South Korea. He was home on leave but came in dressed in his ACU's. I turned around and caught the ACU's out of the corner of my eye and for a minute, thought it was my son. I think I finally realized how much I miss him and how much I want to see him. It would have been the BEST birthday and mother's day present. After that, the tears just kept leaking.

My son's friend Chris works with me and he is in the army reserve as well, leaving for Iraq in the fall. He knew what was going on and tired to jolly me out of it but no go. Then to make the day even worse, there has been a problem with Chris' cash drawer over the weekend and I had to tell him. He took it very badly pretty much feeling like he was being accused of stealing. I have known this kid since he was 5. I know he did not steal this money, but even going over his transaction reports, I could not figure out how he could make such mistakes. This kid has been having such a rough time I just don't know how much more he can take. I have been accused of being too much of a giver (and being taken advantage of) and of collecting "strays" people who need someone to care for them and occasionally give them a hand. (In my opinion if that's the definition then we are ALL strays!) in any case, Chris has had a pretty rotten life in some ways and I do try and look out for him. I look at him as another son. So, by the time I got out of Sam's I was raw and then I had class, (my last class of the year and my last one at National so that was a little emotional). I am more than a little weepy right now and I still have to go to work tonight. Fortunately I am off except for my Wednesday class tomorrow.

I started in on the process of starting my Master's classes and if I don't get a handle on it I am going to be quickly overwhelmed. I have to take the Praxis tests no later than the end of the first semester and if I can. I should probably take them over the summer. I also have to take one undergrad course, which of course has to be a 4 credit hour, 5 week class which meets every day with 2 days also containing labs. I have no clue how I an do that and continue to work. I can't not work because then there is no money! What a vicious circle!

OK, enough of this, I have grades to post and then I need to get ready for another great evenings at Sam's Club! ROF...

A day to myself  

Posted by: Maria

Woo Hoo. An entire day and I am proud to say I didn't do a lick of work....well other than making dinner. I stitched on my Iris piece and have the leaves, stem and bud done, the flower itself is all I have left but that's more than half the piece though! :-)

I called my friend Jack and talked to him for 1/2 an hour. We have been friends for a million years it seems but rarely have time to talk. I managed to catch him at the shop and since he was just putzing with one of his cars, he had time to chat. After that I finally caught up with my mother. I need to make time and find the money to go home. I cannot believe little James is nearly 5 months old and I still haven't seen him. Liliana is nearly a month old and my little Gracie just a wee one. I need my baby fix darn it!

Well since I have spent most of the day outside, I need to go get my shower and get settled. I should probably correct the tests for my Wednesday class and put the final grades on the projects for Monday's class. I don't go to work until 1 tomorrow so I think it may have to wait until morning. After all, why spoil a nice day with work?

Peaceful, Easy Feeling!  

Posted by: Maria

Got moving early this morning but I didn't move far. I took my dog and my stitching and headed for the patio where I started working on the companion piece to the just finished Orchid. For such simple looking pieces they are amazingly complicated to stitch in some places...well not hard, just a lot of color and strand # changes. That takes up a lot of "stitching" time LOL It's a gorgeous day out there and not to hot right now so I think that is my place until I have to get ready for work.

Yesterday was my mom's and my SIL's birthdays. I tried calling my mom but she must have been out celebrating. I need to call my SIL this morning. She is recovering from surgery for colon cancer so I have been trying to not bug her so she can get her rest. She is doing ok but we are still praying for things to come to a happy conclusion.

I bought Josh Turner's "Your Man" album yesterday http://www.joshturner.com/ I have been enjoying that. I love his voice! Right now playing on his site is "Me and God" with Ralph Stanley. Check it out! I was looking for Alison Krauss' "A Hundred Miles or More", I can't believe that Sam's has sold out of it so quickly but it was gone. My music collection is eclectic to say the least. I buy what I happen to feel like listening to...mood changes so does the music. Right now I need mellow so these guys are it.

Well the dog is voicing her disapproval at being left outside by herself. Crazy thing doesn't really pay attention to me when I am there but she wants to know where I am at all times!